You had me today at “Respond and react to what’s within… What do you care about or love? Fight for them things.” (Had to stop in the middle and talk to Bran about why God asked Adam where he was. LOL He chuckled and thought it made sense. 🙂 ) “You don’t need to fit in — it’s dangerous.” Man! we ought to be teaching kids in elementary school that! (At least that’s one thing I got right. I never gave a crap whether I fit in or not…)
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“Your attention and where it’s at… Change your life? Change your attention.” I think that one deserves a t-shirt. That’s a tall order when you put it alongside “You don’t have to figure out who you are. I already made you who you are. You just be that! Now!” That right there is the core issue, isn’t it… And then learning that our roles are not who we are? Guess that’s why we have midlife crises, eh? Lots of good stuff in this one.
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I liked what you said about MLK in this and on Monday night, that the leadership of the movement didn’t wait for someone to tell them they were free — they knew they were free. In thinking about our class at church, that’s sure the way it ought to be. But when you said a person “can’t believe that somebody treats you less than unless you believe that you ARE less than…” Why is a person’s treating you that way dependent on you? I still don’t understand that. In that report on Ferguson they police didn’t need the blacks’ cooperation to treat them like nothing or at least different from whites. That statement still confuses me.
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Good video today. 🙂
I was struck by how quiet the room got right at the end when you were talking about the Prodigal Son. That was an arrow to every heart in there…
How would that version go over in church? 🙂
I’m assuming you mean the paragraph about racism, right? I don’t know. We missed the class Sunday, of course, so I don’t know what they talked about. But I’ve read your emails several times trying to see clearly what you’re saying. I have to admit, setting that idea next to the example of MLK helps to clarify it somewhat for me. I never know what I’m going to say in there till I spit it out. But I’m sure there will be plenty of opportunity for me to throw that in the mix. I’ll let you know how I fare. The book is just not sitting quite well with me. The whole “white guilt” thing is all mixed up in there, but so far he hasn’t mentioned it.
It is guilt and fear and doubt and greed that fuels all co-dependency. Both parties need each other and must agree on the terms at least tacitly or it falls apart. If one of the parties stop the “dance” it soon ends. The dynamics are universal. Different
That right there is what I need to learn how to say in a way others will understand me. We’ll see what happens.
You Are a smart and sensitive lady. You will figure it out sugar
I am talking about the concept of racism as the problem. Not whether some people mistreat other people. It has nothing to do with skin color unless both sides agree. Rational people who know they are free are not self destructive and burn down their own town. Free people would work for real change or leave. MLK understood that non violence is much more powerful than throwing a fit. Dependent children, teenagers, and adults throw fits wanting to be grown except the paying your own way thing. Free people are responsible for themselves. Many people of all colors are functionally dependent on the mother or father State. The state days if you live in my house you go by my rules. The issue is not color it is the addiction to dependency which requires a belief that one is indeed less than for whatever reason and require someone else to provide for them.
But the police did need the cooperation of the people. Decades of belief in racism set up patterns that always lead to such things in culture with teenagers and toddlers. Emotionally it is the same. If the black folks there did not believe use and allow it. It would not have been manifested. It is run of the mill co-dependency.
I see that. I’m wondering how I bring it up in the discussion without insulting Dennis.
It may be impossible. Depends on if he is one who is looking for understanding or if he believes he already has it.
I really like him, but I don’t know him that well. May take a couple weeks to see where he’s coming from.
You had me today at “Respond and react to what’s within… What do you care about or love? Fight for them things.” (Had to stop in the middle and talk to Bran about why God asked Adam where he was. LOL He chuckled and thought it made sense. 🙂 ) “You don’t need to fit in — it’s dangerous.” Man! we ought to be teaching kids in elementary school that! (At least that’s one thing I got right. I never gave a crap whether I fit in or not…)
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“Your attention and where it’s at… Change your life? Change your attention.” I think that one deserves a t-shirt. That’s a tall order when you put it alongside “You don’t have to figure out who you are. I already made you who you are. You just be that! Now!” That right there is the core issue, isn’t it… And then learning that our roles are not who we are? Guess that’s why we have midlife crises, eh? Lots of good stuff in this one.
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I liked what you said about MLK in this and on Monday night, that the leadership of the movement didn’t wait for someone to tell them they were free — they knew they were free. In thinking about our class at church, that’s sure the way it ought to be. But when you said a person “can’t believe that somebody treats you less than unless you believe that you ARE less than…” Why is a person’s treating you that way dependent on you? I still don’t understand that. In that report on Ferguson they police didn’t need the blacks’ cooperation to treat them like nothing or at least different from whites. That statement still confuses me.
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Good video today. 🙂
I was struck by how quiet the room got right at the end when you were talking about the Prodigal Son. That was an arrow to every heart in there…
How would that version go over in church? 🙂
I’m assuming you mean the paragraph about racism, right? I don’t know. We missed the class Sunday, of course, so I don’t know what they talked about. But I’ve read your emails several times trying to see clearly what you’re saying. I have to admit, setting that idea next to the example of MLK helps to clarify it somewhat for me. I never know what I’m going to say in there till I spit it out. But I’m sure there will be plenty of opportunity for me to throw that in the mix. I’ll let you know how I fare. The book is just not sitting quite well with me. The whole “white guilt” thing is all mixed up in there, but so far he hasn’t mentioned it.
It is guilt and fear and doubt and greed that fuels all co-dependency. Both parties need each other and must agree on the terms at least tacitly or it falls apart. If one of the parties stop the “dance” it soon ends. The dynamics are universal. Different
That right there is what I need to learn how to say in a way others will understand me. We’ll see what happens.
You Are a smart and sensitive lady. You will figure it out sugar
I am talking about the concept of racism as the problem. Not whether some people mistreat other people. It has nothing to do with skin color unless both sides agree. Rational people who know they are free are not self destructive and burn down their own town. Free people would work for real change or leave. MLK understood that non violence is much more powerful than throwing a fit. Dependent children, teenagers, and adults throw fits wanting to be grown except the paying your own way thing. Free people are responsible for themselves. Many people of all colors are functionally dependent on the mother or father State. The state days if you live in my house you go by my rules. The issue is not color it is the addiction to dependency which requires a belief that one is indeed less than for whatever reason and require someone else to provide for them.
But the police did need the cooperation of the people. Decades of belief in racism set up patterns that always lead to such things in culture with teenagers and toddlers. Emotionally it is the same. If the black folks there did not believe use and allow it. It would not have been manifested. It is run of the mill co-dependency.
I see that. I’m wondering how I bring it up in the discussion without insulting Dennis.
It may be impossible. Depends on if he is one who is looking for understanding or if he believes he already has it.
I really like him, but I don’t know him that well. May take a couple weeks to see where he’s coming from.